Happiness is great.
But it’s hard to be happy if someone you care about is unhappy!
That being said, happiness can come from helping others; especially if we’re helping them enjoy more happiness!
So if you’d like some tips about how to boost the mood of family and friends, keep reading below…
via Bustle by Kristine Fellizar
Everyone has their fair share of good days and bad. But when your partner is in a bad mood, it can have a way of affecting you in a way your own moods don’t. For instance, it’s hard not take it personally when your partner shuts down, even if their mood has absolutely nothing to do with you. After all, if you love someone, it’s only natural to want to help. According to experts, there are ways to help your partner out of a bad mood, that won’t leave you feeling bad for trying.
People react to challenges the day may bring them differently. If your partner is the type to hibernate and shut down on you, don’t worry. As Dr. Kate Dow, psychologist and relationship expert, tells Bustle, it’s common. “Often times, people shut down during bad moods because they don’t know what they can do for themselves,” Dow says. “We can’t easily think our way out of a bad mood.”
Therefore in some cases, when you ask your partner how you can help, it can be frustrating for them because they really don’t know what to tell you. Trying to deal on their own may seem like the easiest option for them. According to experts, sometimes it is and sometimes it isn’t.
“Helping your partner get out of a’ funk’ is situational and you’ll want to take into consideration things like what put them in the bad mood and how they typically handle stress or intense emotion,” Jeannie Assimos, eharmony’s Chief of Advice, tells Bustle. Although it does vary from person to person, there are still general things to keep in mind if you want to help pull your partner out of a bad mood. Here’s how to do it, according to experts.
1. Keep It All About Them
This may seem like an obvious tip, but don’t make your partner feel guilty for being in a bad mood. You may not be doing it intentionally, but it can come off that way. For example, don’t say something like, “Give me a smile, it’ll make you feel happy” or “When you feel down, I feel down.” As Assimos says, “Don’t make it about you. Make it about them.” If you make it seem like you’re trying to cheer them up for the benefit of you or the two of you, it can have a way of making them feel worse. So keep yourself out of it, and listen to what your partner may need of you instead.
2. Let Them Be
When your partner is in a bad mood, you may have the urge to hug them and love them until they feel better. But for some, all that affection may have the opposite effect. That’s why Assimos says, giving your partner space if they need it is really important. More often than not, they will likely appreciate it. “Make sure your partner knows you are there for them if they choose to not talk about it,” she says. “Don’t interrogate them and amplify their mood. Just be there for them and don’t smother.”
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